What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Are you a self-diagnosed perfectionist or "control freak"? Do you often try to control situations, conversations, or outcomes as a strategy to protect yourself or ensure your needs are met?

Today Madeline and Cynthia explore the difference between control and empowerment. We often believe we have more control than we do, while also believing we have less power than we do.

We will explore why and how to keep our power without holding onto the need to control. If you're ready to live a freer, more spacious life, this is the episode for you.

What we discussed:

(00:00) Introduction: Do you feel the need to stay in control?

(00:44) The core belief around control and power

(01:45) Why we feel the need to control

(03:17) Empowerment is when we take responsibility for ourselves

(05:33) Understanding learned helplessness

(06:44) Practicing boundaries by starting with ourselves

(08:59) Empowering ourselves through useful beliefs and conscious choice

(12:59) Book your spot: Retreat at Home now open!

(13:38) What is self-efficacy?

(17:17) Learning to celebrate ourselves out loud without judgment

(19:14) Staying in conscious choice of our perspective

(20:36) Learning to be flexible in your beliefs

(23:32) Finding the values in our beliefs

(25:50) Ending with a quote

(26:10) Request a topic or submit a challenge

26:53) Closing notes

Quote for Reflection:

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” – Maya Angelou

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Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC Host

Madeline Farquharson Host

Information

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 01/30/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 27 min

Episode 11